So, like most modern day parents, I have a tendency to obsess over my parenting.
Am I attentive enough? Too attentive? Is it ok to have child care? Should I have someone come to the house or send him somewhere? If we really scraped by, could I stop working? Would that be fair to him - if it make us less stable?
I had lunch with a friend the other day. And while I feel like I practice "attachement parenting lite" - she practices a more formal type of it. And being with her makes me question all my decisions anew. She works w/o daycare - maybe I should do that too. But I did do that - and it make me insane. And I am so much less stressed out now.
I really think it comes down to knowing yourself and knowing your child and finding the solution that meets your sets of needs in the right way. I choose to partially wean and have part-time childcare. She feeds almost no solids at 11 months and has no paid childcare. In the end - though - what matters is the love - the attachment. And our bond is strong.
As Steve said to me the other night - Ben never calls out in the night for Cecilia - he calls out for me. I am his mama. And I will always be. And for that I am truly, truly blessed.
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